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Oct 23, 2020
It feels like the eighteenth time I’ve asked my eight-year-old to stop hitting his six-year-old brother... with a stick. It's triggered tingling in my fingers, stinging in the chest, and a hot roiling at the ribs.
What can I do?
I can give myself a ringside seat in the arena of reaction.
Here's the thing with reacting. It's a hot mess of a habit. There's a region of the brain that sets off a signal for it. You can picture it as a cartoon clapper bell, getting ready to ding. And when it does, it floods the mind - in nano-seconds.
So, what can you do?
Well, there's recognition: the simple recognition of where reactivity is landing. Recognition of the feel of reactivity. Recognition of the here and now of reactivity. Recognition of the need to shift gears of awareness as reactivity arises.
But where does recognition start?
Maybe it starts with a choice.
Here's a choice: to bring awareness to the soles of my feet: to the raw, tingling, fizzing, pulsing vibrations of the feet. Down where it's all pins, needles, and cork-cooled Birkenstock.
The psychologists call this "decentering": you redirect your attention to a place in the body to help you "step out" of reactivity. You make a deliberate choice to go to what's already here, already available, already happening now.
You tune into the wisdom of direct experience.
In this instance, it's the wisdom of the feet, followed by the wisdom of awareness that comes from being breathed by the breathing breath. Yes, there's a 'home run' to be found in the wisdom of the soles of your feet and being breathed by the breathing breath. It may only be a momentary 'home run' but it may be enough to help you find the space for a wiser response.
In that space, you are already mindful.
Welcome to a blog about coming home to what is.
Coming home to who you already are.
Who you truly are.
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The purpose of the blog is to share what it is to make sense of mindfulness - in the good, bad, and neutral moments that this life of ours throws our way.
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With warm wishes.