Buddha in a buddy's garden.
I took up mindfulness because I experienced anxiety, maybe depression. But tell me somebody who hasn't. Maybe it’s in the design. If so, can we accept this? Can we find freedom in what's already here?
Mindfulness can help you get back to the present. Which is the best and only place to be. In doing so it can help you get back being who you already are. It's a useful reframe: knowing that the answer is within. That it's already here. Already available.
The intention is to offer free meditations, free mindfulness exercises, and the freedom to cultivate your own practice out of the wisdom of teachers, influencers, and practitioners who can make mindfulness make sense for you.
Here's a practice to give you an experiential sense of what mindfulness is about. It was recorded one afternoon whilst taking in the rugged beauty of Glencoe Cove Park, here in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada.
There is more right with you than wrong with you.
At my first mindfulness class, I was told ... from our point of view, as long as you are breathing, there is more right with you than wrong with you, no matter what the challenges you are facing. Challenges and difficulties are workable.
This is where we start - by reframing challenge and difficulty as workable. Of course, it won't seem that way in the full throes of what's unfolding. But the more you work with it the more it can make sense. For instance, sometimes it just helps to repeat phrases like ...
there is more right with this situation than wrong with this situation
there is more right with me than wrong with me
there is more right with this person than wrong with this person
Try it. Try it when you think you might need it today. Try it with the small stuff. Try it as the unfolding moment you don't want to unfold starts unfolding.
So, when the kids start kicking off (because the kids can be totally relied upon to start kicking off - any minute now, methinks) you can say:
there is more right with this situation than wrong with this situation ...
there is more right with my kids than wrong with my kids.
It's an observable truth. It's a felt truth. What's more, it's enlightening - even liberating - to know that the only thing stopping this workable reframe is your tricky mind. This is what mindfulness teaches us: that we have a tricky, sticky, storytelling mind. The neuroscientist, Rick Hanson, puts it like this ... your mind is like Velcro for bad thoughts and Teflon for good thoughts.
Being ‘already mindful’ means recognizing the tenacious velcro-ness of negativity when it starts to arise, then finding your capacity within to pause and feel your way towards a wiser response.
This moment is the moment we need mindfulness more than ever.
Seems like everybody is talking about 'waves'. Wave one, wave two, wave three. However, experience tells us that waves defy definition. They just arrive. Maybe we need to start being present with waves as they arise. Here's a helpful practice from Rick Hanson. It shows the workableness of riding waves during these new ways (or waves) of being we're experiencing now.
Thanks for showing up. I know your attention is important to you. I'm grateful you placed it here.
Meantime, stay well … and be who you already are