A Nervous System-Informed Approach to Transformation
This coaching process unfolds in three stages, grounded in Polyvagal Theory, Interpersonal Neurobiology, and the science of intentional, self-directed neuroplasticity.
STAGE ONE: Understand Your Nervous System
Reconnect with your body’s innate intelligence.
Learn how your autonomic nervous system works — why you go into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn — and how to recognize the signs of each state in real time.
We explore:
• Polyvagal Theory: the biology of safety and connection
• Neuroception: how your body scans for threat without your permission
• Your personal nervous system map — what regulation and dysregulation look like for you
• The vagus nerve and why self-regulation starts with the body
“To feel abandoned is to deny the intimacy of your surroundings.” — David Whyte
This stage is about noticing what’s already supporting you, before you try to fix or change anything.
STAGE TWO: Identify the Transformation You Seek
Clarify the change you want, in a way your body can believe.
This isn’t about setting abstract goals — it’s about naming the transformation your life is asking for through your body, your relationships, and your story.
We focus on:
• Parenting (e.g., emotional attunement, presence)
• Partnering (e.g., boundaries, conflict repair, trust)
• Playing (e.g., purpose, vocation, creativity)
Not just “be a better dad,” but show up at drop-off without dissociating.
Not just “find purpose,” but stop abandoning yourself at work.
We recognise that …
“Transformation begins with truth — and your nervous system has to feel that it’s possible.”
STAGE THREE: Apply the RESET Model
Neural Exercises for Lasting Change
Change is not intellectual. It’s physiological. In this stage, you’ll practice neural exercises from the RESET Model, a five-part rhythm that helps you build new patterns in your body and brain.
The RESET Model:
• R – Regulate through breath, sound, and movement
• E – Embody your lived experience without judgment
• S – Settle the body and grow stillness capacity
• E – Engage from safety and co-regulation
• T – Transform through repetition, intention, and somatic memory
These tools leverage your body’s natural ability to rewire itself, using focused attention and safety-based repetition.
The Outcome
You become more you — not the conditioned, performative version, but the present, embodied, resilient man who was never lost, just hidden.
You’ll learn how to:
• Pause instead of react
• Regulate instead of retreat
• Connect instead of collapse
• Parent, partner, and play from rooted presence
How It Works
We begin with a three-part arc. Each stage may take one or more sessions:
• Sessions 1–2: Understanding the nervous system
• Sessions 2–3: Identifying the transformation
• Sessions 4–6: Applying the RESET Model
Ongoing coaching is available for deeper integration.
Who This is For:
Men who are:
• Navigating transitions (divorce, grief, fatherhood, job change)
• Seeking emotional regulation and deeper relationships
• Curious about body-based coaching instead of just talk therapy
• Ready to live with more intention and less reactivity
Let’s Work Together
If this resonates, you’re already on the path. Let’s walk it together.
“Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into the conversation.
Everything is waiting for you.” — David Whyte
Contact Chris at:
250 884 5462